6 Self Care During Divorce
Seek the company of friends who do not demonise your ex.
At this time its easy to think that your ex is a demon. They have betrayed you one way or another but then that’s probably how best they know. At a time like this, you need one or two shoulders to cry or lean on. Choose wisely. Such friends should seek your good, not your ex’s bad.
Choose an attorney who knows what he is doing
There are many lawyers who regard the dissolution of a marriage work as cheap money. Heaven help you if you meet a divorce lawyer on the other side. You will get the divorce but they will have torn your emotions to pieces. Choose well.
Take a Divorce Holiday
Sometimes we just need to stop talking about what the ex has done. Keeping them top of mind isn’t going to make it easy for you. It actually makes it harder for you to heal and practise self-care. Take a holiday from thinking about them. One day, then one week and you will wonder how you made it through.
Tension does not help the children cope
Children would always want mummy and daddy to be together, but we don’t always get our first choices. Do not make it worse by slandering the other parent, cursing them on the phone within earshot of the kids. The effect of living in a tense atmosphere has rippling effect on them forever.
Get a support team
At a time like this, you need to build a support team. It should consist of those friends who do not demonise your ex, a divorce coach, a financial adviser and a wellness coach or buddy. Choose well.
Establish that divorce is not a failure
Would you consider yourself a failure if your spouse died? Not exactly! You would simply walk through the grief process and seek happiness as you move on. So it is with Divorce- the death of a marriage. The fact that it did not work does not mean you have failed. Stop allowing the opinion of others describe who you are.
Divorce is a very stressful process and you need to love on yourself as you go through it. The good thing is that there is always a light at the end f the tunnel of divorce if you will keep your eyes open for it.