5 WAYS TO SURVIVE AS A SINGLE PARENT
Single parenthood can be lonely as well as rewarding. There are many nights you will cry because the other parent isn’t there to take the burden of childcare off you.
At every stage of the child’s life, there are peculiar irritants that would probably make you throw your arms up in the air. You feel exhausted and do not believe you can carry on. The next day simply throws up its own challenges and you get to the point where you wish you were not in that state, but you are.
LEARN TO ASK FOR HELP
As a single parent learn to ask for advice and cry for help. Financial or business help, physical help fixing things around the house and even gardening or outdoor maintenance help. A paired parent is never self-sufficient, how much more a single parent. There is nothing to be ashamed of if you ask for help. Ask for help to enable you to get some rest or to socialise.
TEACH THEM LIFE SKILLS
Spend time teaching your kids how to be self-sufficient. Gone are the days when boys are told not to learn to cook. Many of the world’s best chefs today are men. Teach the children how to plant basic vegetables or keep a garden. The oxygen will do them a lot of good.
If you have more than one kid learn how to bond with each one separately as well as all together. It gives them a feeling of tightness with the parent and helps them develop memories of you and the child.
MAKE THEM FINANCIALLY LITERATE
Teach your kids how to budget and save. If you don’t know how to, ask for help. Financial literacy ought to be inculcated in them from youth. Make them give you an account of how much they spend, whether its their money or someone else’s
As a child I always had to give an account of how much I spent and on what even though there was a till receipt. I had to explain why I bought the items I did, where they necessary? Was that the cheapest that I could get them for?
SET CLEAR BOUNDARIES
Set clear boundaries for each child and make sure that there are set consequences, which are followed through. When people learn boundaries, they learn to respect other people’s opinions, properties and heart. When we set boundaries, we learn how to live as a dependable person and in turn responsible adults.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
Forget the guilt, if you feel such. It’s time to look after your health and your emotions because the road of parenthood is long. Besides, it’s time to get yourself ready to love again.
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