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The marriage ceremonies are over. The couple steps into life as married people. What has changed? He is still the same height as before just as she still has the sonorous voice that drew him to her the night they met. The lack of any change is only on the surface; things have changed. She is now his next of kin just as he is of hers. Next of Kin is a badly abused phrase to mean the person who … Read More

We’ve all at one time or the other watched the eviction shows on Big Brother Show. If you haven’t try to do so. It’s quite instructive. The show starts with 15 participants who live together in a house, and then we all, including Big Brother, get to see all the shenanigans they get up to. At the end of a given period, Big Brother evicts the most anti-social participant until a winner is declared.   Our relationships are very much like participating … Read More

Do you remember when you made your marriage vows? The day you vowed to love your spouse till death do you part. You would have been so much in love and have plans for a life of happy moments surrounded by family looking forward to reaching old age together. Many times it doesn’t happen. It doesn’t last till death puts you apart. You have hitches on the way and you both do not really care any longer about those vows. … Read More

I get to talk to a lot of people who admit their marriages are in deep trouble, who wish to move on with their lives, but would rather keep the issue of divorce on the back burner. Many there are who believe that going to see a lawyer signifies the end of the marriage. Many are afraid to reach that stage and who rather hide behind what a pastor said or what the holy books say. When you ask them … Read More

Watch the expiry date on your eggs cause they are for real. That presupposes you aren’t to buy from the corner shop down your road; the Mallam who ekes a living from the necessaries you run out of, or indeed the woman who apes Mallam’s business to enable her to ensure her kids remain in school. It’s really about eggs and what have to do in a marriage that’s my concern. When you make an omelette many things go into … Read More

Amanda couldn’t believe what she was hearing. How could Greg be asking her for a divorce when all these years she had tolerated his bad behaviour? He was leaving her for the mother of his child, the one whose adultery Amanda had tolerated for the last 5 years. Unbeknownst to her he had continued seeing the lady and now Greg was saying he needed to be with her, given that their third child was on the way. She felt like … Read More

Many people remain in an unhappy marriage for reasons ranging from the children, to the fact that God hates divorce. Others say they do not mind being separated, presumably because God didn’t talk about being separated!!!! Usually living together or apart he truth is that both are not happy at the state of the marriage and excuse their refusal to get divorced on reasons give about, among others. They do not voice their unhappiness to each other, even though the … Read More

She came out from under the staircase, out into the hall. The light, the air-conditioned hallway, the freshness of the environment momentarily ran into her head. She rests her body on the counter slightly hiding herself behind the pillar which went up into the ceiling. She was probably aware of her sweaty smell and needed to cool down and dry out before walking further into the hall. The hall was almost bereft of bank customers, it had been a long … Read More

It’s getting fashionable to talk about no fault divorces and telling couples to choose a no-faults divorce over a contested divorce. Emotions run deep when a marriage breaks up and it is hard to counsel no-fault. What is a No-Fault divorce? It is meant to be one where the couple agree to divorce without ascribing blame on each other. Is this possible or is this a fallacy? Divorce is a commonplace event; yet it leads to the greatest emotional trauma … Read More

Sometimes there isn’t a daddy that is coming home. He either doesn’t exist because the mum doesn’t know him, she was raped, or he is dead.  Life happens and rape isn’t the end of life. Not many people prepare for death and so leave the care to the surviving spouse or partner. There are many considerations that should be uppermost on the minds of parents who find themselves in these situations? Until they get married again or indeed for the … Read More