SECURE YOUR FAMILY – CRAFT A VISION
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Fred wiped the sweat from his brows. His vision clouded as the tears filled his eyes. He dabbed the tears from the corners of his eyes as he needed to clear his vision to see the road. He couldn’t believe what Clara had just told him at home. She was leaving. She insisted that they no longer had a future and it was too risky to continue to live with him as his wife. No, she hadn’t met someone else … Read More

BIG BROTHER IS ALWAYS WATCHING
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We’ve all at one time or the other watched the eviction shows on Big Brother Show. If you haven’t try to do so. It’s quite instructive. The show starts with 15 participants who live together in a house, and then we all, including Big Brother, get to see all the shenanigans they get up to. At the end of a given period, Big Brother evicts the most anti-social participant until a winner is declared.   Our relationships are very much like participating … Read More

Marriage Vows: What Do They Mean To You?
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Do you remember when you made your marriage vows? The day you vowed to love your spouse till death do you part. You would have been so much in love and have plans for a life of happy moments surrounded by family looking forward to reaching old age together. Many times it doesn’t happen. It doesn’t last till death puts you apart. You have hitches on the way and you both do not really care any longer about those vows. … Read More

An omelette is only as good as the eggs
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Watch the expiry date on your eggs cause they are for real. That presupposes you aren’t to buy from the corner shop down your road; the Mallam who ekes a living from the necessaries you run out of, or indeed the woman who apes Mallam’s business to enable her to ensure her kids remain in school. It’s really about eggs and what have to do in a marriage that’s my concern. When you make an omelette many things go into … Read More

Marriages aren’t the same as cupcakes
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 MYTHS AND REALITIES OF MARRIAGE EACH SPOUSE WANTS TO HAVE CHILDREN While they bring great emotional pleasure, children are hard work. Unless it has been discussed by the couple before they actually get married, not every spouse wants to have children. Many people get into marriage with this assumption and are disappointed that their significant other doesn’t really care to have children. This is particularly so where the couple find it hard to conceive and it appears the one of … Read More

Has your marriage broken down irretrievably???
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The law regulating divorce and other causes between a couple that got married under the Marriage Act is known as Matrimonial Causes Act (MCA). It is only relevant to marriages conducted as court or church marriages. The only reason recognised under MCA is that the marriage has broken down irretrievably. There are however some facts recognised by law by which a marriage can be said to have broken down irretrievably. 1. The respondent has wilfully and persistently refused to consummate … Read More

Why not simply get a divorce?
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They arrive and sit together at family outings. At least the formal bits. This morning, like most,  they barely said good morning to each other but have an understanding that he tells her the evening before what time they are leaving and they meet in the car. Other than family outings you never see them at the same outing. One avoids the other’s outings. That is the extent of their current relationship as husband and wife. She told me she would never … Read More

Last Will, Current Marriage
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Abbas chose to marry Nkechi under their customay law and custom. He wasn’t disposed to having a court or church marriage. Nkechi made many requests for the statutory form of marraige because she wanted to secure the future of herself and her children when and if he pre-deceased her. She expected him to. Wasn’t that the expecetd order of life and living. Even if she did not succeed at anything else she convinced him to make a will. Death was … Read More

Stop Getting It Wrong – marry right
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I am always amazed that many people, including priests do not know the requirements of the law about conducting monogamous marriages. Many marriages are being conducted without complying with the requirements of the law. So whether you live together for 100years, if your marriage is faulty, it is a sin before God. If your marriage is faulty, and there are inheritance issues, you may end up with nothing. Here is a checklist of the procedure: 1. One of the parties … Read More

Should We Continue To Marry More Than Once
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Almost everyone agrees that divorce should be the last option to the resolution of a troubled marriage. Many marriages are troubled from the start and so the end usually has come quite early before the smoke of the tell tale signs start to show. Many people have also found solace and happiness in re-marriage and so all needs not to be lost. There are myriad reasons why a marriage fails, and even many more why people hold on to a … Read More