Marriage Vows: What Do They Mean To You?
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Do you remember when you made your marriage vows? The day you vowed to love your spouse till death do you part. You would have been so much in love and have plans for a life of happy moments surrounded by family looking forward to reaching old age together. Many times it doesn’t happen. It doesn’t last till death puts you apart. You have hitches on the way and you both do not really care any longer about those vows. … Read More

Has your marriage broken down irretrievably???
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The law regulating divorce and other causes between a couple that got married under the Marriage Act is known as Matrimonial Causes Act (MCA). It is only relevant to marriages conducted as court or church marriages. The only reason recognised under MCA is that the marriage has broken down irretrievably. There are however some facts recognised by law by which a marriage can be said to have broken down irretrievably. 1. The respondent has wilfully and persistently refused to consummate … Read More

THE LIVE-IN LOVER OR THE ILLEGAL WIFE?
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Mary pondered at what the future would hold and how she would manage the family Chike had before he met her, along with the family they had created over time. Chike was battling cancer and all the indications pointed to the fact that he seemed to be losing the battle. She had learnt, through the hard knocks of life that relationships are empty canvases that people build over time. She had built a solid relationship with him or so she … Read More

Why not simply get a divorce?
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They arrive and sit together at family outings. At least the formal bits. This morning, like most,  they barely said good morning to each other but have an understanding that he tells her the evening before what time they are leaving and they meet in the car. Other than family outings you never see them at the same outing. One avoids the other’s outings. That is the extent of their current relationship as husband and wife. She told me she would never … Read More

Last Will, Current Marriage
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Abbas chose to marry Nkechi under their customay law and custom. He wasn’t disposed to having a court or church marriage. Nkechi made many requests for the statutory form of marraige because she wanted to secure the future of herself and her children when and if he pre-deceased her. She expected him to. Wasn’t that the expecetd order of life and living. Even if she did not succeed at anything else she convinced him to make a will. Death was … Read More

Joint ownership of property- till death do you part?
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Sometimes due to unavailability of funds and at other times due to size of a plot, more than one person choose to pool funds together to buy property. Many times, when they are siblings or a married couple, the purchase is made without a statement about what share each of them has in the purchase or in the equity residing in the property. They progress things by building together or even as many separate units as their needs require but … Read More

What makes people divorce?
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A lot of people do not want to talk about this topic but share we must. [bctt tweet=”Divorce is an unpleasant reality of any relationship. Divorce does not happen overnight.”] It is the culmination of a series of destructive actions that eventually make the marriage breakdown. When a marriage is not valid there cannot be a divorce but there can still be a breakdown of the relationship of a couple who are not married. [bctt tweet=”Lack of communication, using sex … Read More

Desertion – Can be constructive
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‘I hereby pronounce a decree nisi, dissolving the marriage celebrated on 4th December 2018, between Charles Abayomi Onilenla and Nkiru Amaka Chukwu at the Nsukka Marriage Registry. This decree shall become absolute three months from today, unless there are extenuating circumstances that prevent it. This shall be my judgement……………………………………..’ Nkiru was in a daze, she heard the words ring out as if from afar. More was said about the children and about the access to them during holidays especially. Abayo … Read More

Should We Continue To Marry More Than Once
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Almost everyone agrees that divorce should be the last option to the resolution of a troubled marriage. Many marriages are troubled from the start and so the end usually has come quite early before the smoke of the tell tale signs start to show. Many people have also found solace and happiness in re-marriage and so all needs not to be lost. There are myriad reasons why a marriage fails, and even many more why people hold on to a … Read More