Who is your next of kin
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The marriage ceremonies are over. The couple steps into life as married people. What has changed? He is still the same height as before just as she still has the sonorous voice that drew him to her the night they met. The lack of any change is only on the surface; things have changed. She is now his next of kin just as he is of hers. Next of Kin is a badly abused phrase to mean the person who … Read More

BIG BROTHER IS ALWAYS WATCHING
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We’ve all at one time or the other watched the eviction shows on Big Brother Show. If you haven’t try to do so. It’s quite instructive. The show starts with 15 participants who live together in a house, and then we all, including Big Brother, get to see all the shenanigans they get up to. At the end of a given period, Big Brother evicts the most anti-social participant until a winner is declared.   Our relationships are very much like participating … Read More

Marriage Vows: What Do They Mean To You?
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Do you remember when you made your marriage vows? The day you vowed to love your spouse till death do you part. You would have been so much in love and have plans for a life of happy moments surrounded by family looking forward to reaching old age together. Many times it doesn’t happen. It doesn’t last till death puts you apart. You have hitches on the way and you both do not really care any longer about those vows. … Read More

When he says ‘I am outta here’
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Amanda couldn’t believe what she was hearing. How could Greg be asking her for a divorce when all these years she had tolerated his bad behaviour? He was leaving her for the mother of his child, the one whose adultery Amanda had tolerated for the last 5 years. Unbeknownst to her he had continued seeing the lady and now Greg was saying he needed to be with her, given that their third child was on the way. She felt like … Read More

Marriage Counsellor or Divorce Court; which comes first?
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Many people remain in an unhappy marriage for reasons ranging from the children, to the fact that God hates divorce. Others say they do not mind being separated, presumably because God didn’t talk about being separated!!!! Usually living together or apart he truth is that both are not happy at the state of the marriage and excuse their refusal to get divorced on reasons give about, among others. They do not voice their unhappiness to each other, even though the … Read More

What Is No Fault Divorce?
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It’s getting fashionable to talk about no fault divorces and telling couples to choose a no-faults divorce over a contested divorce. Emotions run deep when a marriage breaks up and it is hard to counsel no-fault. What is a No-Fault divorce? It is meant to be one where the couple agree to divorce without ascribing blame on each other. Is this possible or is this a fallacy? Divorce is a commonplace event; yet it leads to the greatest emotional trauma … Read More

When Daddy Never Comes Home
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Sometimes there isn’t a daddy that is coming home. He either doesn’t exist because the mum doesn’t know him, she was raped, or he is dead.  Life happens and rape isn’t the end of life. Not many people prepare for death and so leave the care to the surviving spouse or partner. There are many considerations that should be uppermost on the minds of parents who find themselves in these situations? Until they get married again or indeed for the … Read More

5 Reasons Why Parents Do Not Look After Their Kids
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Who is a solo parent? It could be someone who is married, divorced, separated or never been married. Society is generally unkind to women who parent alone outside of marriage and sympathetic to those who solo parent within a marriage. Those ones are considered as unfortunate in their relationships. There is a growing number of single ladies who are procreating without need for a husband or a marriage relationship. Until outlawed, these ladies are part of the society they live … Read More

Divorce is never the first option
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  Divorce is not necessarily the first option in a troubled marriage; but needless to say that some are terminal and we need to put an end to them. Just like any event,  divorce needs to be considered and planned. The only time that I say run from your marriage is when there is physical and emotional abuse. Run, run, run and don’t stop to say hello to anyone until you are in court. If the issues that make you … Read More

We might as well eat the currency!!
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Many years ago a friend of mine saved a N100,000.00 when I could hardly afford N25,000.00. I admit I was jealous and blamed God for where I was at the time. She lived a definitely more austere life than I did but I chose to put that down to the fact that she had 4 children at the time, while I had only 2. I found all excuses why she lived an austere life until she saved N100,000.00 to my … Read More

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